I admit, I’m a Dave Ramsey novice. I’ve never read a book, perused a website, tuned to the dial of his radio show, or glanced at anything to do with the man.
Until now…
I decided to pick up a book of his at the library and see for myself just what was in the kool-aid, that made people swear by him (or swear at him if you are not the kool-aid drinking kind).
I’ve started the book and while I am not even remotely close to being done, something he brought up struck a chord with me. A sick to my stomach sort of chord.
He brought up the subject of having a will.
See, this subject makes me feel all icky and brings on heart palpitations for yours truly. Yes I know, we all gotta go sometime. Yes I know, it’s not a matter of if, it’s when. But before you bring up another trite maxim to describe the situation, hear me out.
Dying scares the crap out of me.
Wow… I feel a little better about saying it. Look, I know I am not going to live forever, nor do I want to be cryogenically (is that even a word?) frozen or any of that.
But I don’t want to miss out on life either.
The thought of not being here to guide my daughter through life or not sharing one more anniversary with my husband, truly makes me nauseous. My husband and I tried to have one of those “God forbid anything should happen to both of us, who would take care of our daughter” talks sometime after she was first born, and I shut down. The conversation was stifled before it even got off the ground.
I know having a will is important. I know that in so many cases, the state doesn’t look into what’s best for the child or the family. I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my anxiety on the subject matter.
For me, it is going to require many, many baby steps to do and complete this process. I’m a nervous wreck even typing this but I know it must get done.
Do you guys have a will? Was it a difficult process?
This is a very difficult topic to discuss. But because I have my faith in Jesus, I have no fear of death. I do feel disappointment that I might “miss out,” but then I focus back on Jesus and realize that when I die, I’ll be in the presence of my Savior and the God of the Universe who loves my family even more than I do. Then I realize that it’s everyone still left on earth who will be missing out!
There are at least 3 documents that have to be processed. (I think) One is for the custody of your kids. I recommend you chose that family with much prayer and get that done ASAP. Then there is the document on who decides how the hospital takes care of you if you get placed on life support. Then there is the will. We have 2 of the 3 completed.
I love your comment 🙂
Thanks for letting me know that there is more than one document that I need to look into. I had no idea!
Nope. No will. It’s a shame. I’m a terrible mother.
Also, dying scares the shit out of me. I can’t even have a rational conversation about it.
I am so with you on this one! My husband read my post and tried to bring up the topic once more. After 2 whole minutes, I was done; the conversation has been suspended, once again. *Sigh* This is going to be even more difficult than I thought. Baby steps, baby steps…
I don’t have a will, and there’s really no point in it anyway. But when I have kids I’ll make a will for sure.
Good Idea!
We have 3 kids and don’t have a will yet.. It’s been on the “to do” list forever.. Thanks for reminding me!
It’s a scary thing to do, but I guess we gotta get it done!