As you get older, you tend to look back and wonder two things… One, how did I survive “such and such”…I mean we’ve all had to go through some serious ish at one point or another, and we’ve come out stronger.
The other thing you wonder, is why did I worry about “such and such” so much? It either wasn’t worth the worry, or it didn’t turn out to be as bad as we thought.
In the 5 ½ years since I hit magic age of 30, I’ve gone through a lot and have learned some hard knock lessons. If I could go back and have a convo’ with my younger self, you know, the one tossing back some margaritas (hey I’m 30! Par-tay!)…I would say:
1. Being a parent is hard work. No one tells you this, not really. When people who don’t have kids make comments about parenting that are truly off the mark, actual parents just smirk and say “You just wait”.
And they mean it.
Parenting. Is. Hard. But with combinations of sweetness thrown in for good measure or else your kids would literally drive you bonkers. But it is work, nonetheless.
I would tell my 30 year-old self to remember to take deep breaths and that part of being a parent is to always learn, and sometimes you don’t always have the answer or know what to do.
And that’s okay.
2. You will have to sell your house, but you’ll be okay. Long story, but we had to sell our house a few years ago. You can read about it here. Although for many reasons, it ended up working out for us in the long run, it still sucked. The whole process sucked. I would tell myself, that life is throwing a major curveball at you, but just swing that thing outta the park. This major moment in your life will make you stronger.
3. Save more money you dingbat! Yes, I am calling myself names but she deserves it WHY, why, why didn’t I put more money in my savings? WHY? Because although I’m smarter with my money now, I can’t speak for my own personal Roaring Twenties. The money wasted just makes me sick. Bleh…
4. Get an exercise regimen going NOW! Listen honey, things don’t quite fall back into place after having a baby. Get going on that treadmill now. You’ll thank me later.
5. Contribute the max to your 401K. Arghhhhhh…. *face palm* I contributed a substantial amount, but never the max. Are you listening 30 year-old self? CONTRIBUTE THE MAX!!!
No matter the age, is there anything you would tell your younger self?